Sometimes life gives you lemons. The lemons can be in the form of losing a job, getting a divorce, or even worse, losing a loved one. This year, there has been a lot of lemons that we have had to deal with. Let’s talk about shifting your mindset in 2020.
It’s no secret that all of us have been surprised by all the challenges in 2020. No one has been untouched by the pandemic and all the other crisis of these last few months.
Stress is at an all-time high, as people are concerned about not only their health but their jobs and their loved ones. We cannot change the circumstances, but we can choose our responses.
We can choose to focus on the negative, or we can focus on responding correctly.
The first step in shifting your mindset in 2020 is to realize how important it is that we do so.
We are all allowed to get upset, scared, or stressed when trials come. It wouldn’t be human if we didn’t experience these emotions. But to dwell in that state for too long, to wallow in anger or bitterness, you actually will become a different person. A bitter person. A scared person. A stuck person. And in turn, you can even become a sick person.
“The latest research to give credence to the link between state of mind and health is a recent study from Concordia University that has found constant bitterness can make a person ill. Holding on to bitterness can affect metabolism, immune response, or organ function and lead to physical disease, researchers say.” TheConversation.com
I know when my husband left me, I was terrified and angry and bitter for a solid 18 months. But then, I had an epiphany. Did I want to stay the way I was for the rest of my life? Absolutely not! I did not want to let a bad thing in my yesterday continue to overshadow my today or tomorrow.
Was this an overnight transformation of mind and spirit? No way! But did I change my mindset and outlook and start moving in the right direction? Yes, way!
Sometimes we want our circumstances to change and think that is the only way to be happy. In reality, it is us that needs to change. We need to change our perspective. We need to see with new eyes. As Marcel Proust says, “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes.”
“We must look at the lens through which we see the world, as well as the world we see, and that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.” – Stephen R. Covey
The second step in shifting your mindset in 2020 is not to try to go it alone. Join with others for support and encouragement. We are not meant to be alone with our struggles and trials.
Even during this quarantine time, we must seek out others, even if it is virtual, through online.
C.S Lewis said, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
I believe in the power of stories. Sharing your story and hearing someone else’s can be life-altering. It can teach and inspire and heal. Hearing about the struggles of others and how they overcame them can help shift your mindset.
Surround yourself with people who care, people who can relate, and people who have themselves learned and so can help you in shifting your mindset in 2020.
I’d love to chat with you, share my own stories, and encourage you. Let’s chat!